Our education system sets our children up to believe that they have to make a huge effort in order to get good results. This is often re-inforced at home by parents, particularly if we are a parent with a 'good work ethic' (which my children are always telling me I have passed on to them, which seems an euphemism for 'you were never around when we were growing up'!). Even therapists talk about “working on yourself', because we are taught at a very young age that everything mu